love is trust
Love
There are many different types of love. Some like the love of chocolate or the love for a baby do not require trust. Romantic love does require trust, why would people be so hurt and shocked when they find out that there boy/girlfriend has cheated on them. I think that adult love does require trust, but it can be and often is misplaced trust. Thats where the pain and heartache come in.
I don't know...
Love isn't trust. You can, for example, love your 1 month old kid without trusting him/her to leave alone or stay next to a big fire or such things. If that is possible, why would it not be so with older people? On the other hand, love may make us empathize more, which could possibly lead to a subjective kind of trust. But I do think that love without trust is possible. Painful, but possible.
To Love or Trust first?
It is almost a epical battle between the two, being such a thin line both can draw. Do we love first and trust later or trust first and love later?. these two can cause uncertainties between each other bounderies, the only answer is through your trail and error process. everything else is others opinions and views and we all know, what might work for someone else will not definitaly work for you equallySoooooooo important
To love someone and put your heart on the line is to trust them with your very being. If they break that trust the bond can never be the same, yes people try but forgeting is near impossible. And your heart will always know. The scars will always be felt no matter how silent they seem tainting the relationship for the rest of its life.
Someone asked which comes first trust or love, I would say if you are sensible you find trust first.
Someone asked which comes first trust or love, I would say if you are sensible you find trust first.
Love Without Trust
Love without trust is nothing. Personaly I dont think that you can truely love a person if you cant trust them. It can be an illusion or a crush but not true love. If you can trust a preson then you cant have a meanful relationship with that person. Its just two people that are in with each other. Nothing more.
Love without trust..... what a question to answer
Love without trust is no love at all. Love is based on trust. The minuite your lover has cheated or especially falls for another that person doesn't love you and that trust destroys and love also destroys because they goes together.Or maybe the person is using one of them to fullfil the void that lives in them.
Notice that a relationship can change. For example, the love relationship with one's children (not, in this case, an equal relationship) usually does change when they have grown up. When they are old and wise enough, the love of one's children will now include trust, though it did not before.
Except in the case of one's own children, love cannot long survive the loss of trust.
Trust, however, can exist in the absence of love. For example, we would like to trust our elected representatives (politicians etc.) Every person, who has not by bitter experience learned to mistrust anything and everything, will freely give trust to anyone, provided they are not positively known to be untrustworthy, or possibly if they are suspected of being untrustworthy by reason of being in some untrustworthy category (eg. strangers, young children, members of an untrustworthy organization, etc.). In other words, trust is giving the benefit of the doubt when one's own "knowledge" is felt to be wanting. When one "knows" from independent sources then of course there is no doubt, unless that "knowledge" is newly considered doubtful in the light of what a loved one, for example, has said.
Specifically, one must trust one's marriage partner if one is to love them. Love without trust is not a basis for any permanent equal relationship.
romantic loves differs from the love of a child
You need to have trust to fully love someone romantically. But, as far as loving a child goes, you don`t need to fully trust them to love them. People may break your trust but everyone deserves a second chance and just because one person messed up, doesn`t mean the next one will.
The bigger problem...
I think before we define whether or not love can exist without trust, we have to fully understand what love is. Of course, I have to clarify that I'm talking about the love between two people in a relationship. Love is delicate. It doesn't revolve around lust, infatuation, obsession, or comfort. It is something that withstands all tests of time if it is true. It goes beyond pheromones and conscious feelings. It is a subconscious, magnetic attraction that cannot be broken by any force in the universe. At the same time, that magnetism can only be formed if both persons implicitly know every excruciating detail about the other. Therefore, if true love exists, it creates absolute trust. Love and trust are truly one and the same in this sense. The only way love can be destroyed is if one or both persons are revealed to be something different than they were perceived to be. So if the trust is broken, the mind and heart question the reality of the love, and therefore let it go.
Trust is part of equal love
For me, trust is an essential part of love between equals (such as marriage between a woman and a man). It involves believing promises (whether marriage vows or smaller matters). A healthy and useful love of an equal is an inexplicable attraction to another, so I will not try to explain it--you will know it when you have it. Trust means having confidence that a person will always do the "right" thing by one, doing what they promise they will do. Saying positively that they will do something, even a small thing, amounts to a promise unless it is specifically retracted before the event. This retraction might be applied even to "big" things like marriage vows, though such retraction is liable to lead to immediate mistrust, and eventually the destruction of love. A person who has learned to mistrust because of bitter experience will have to unlearn that mistrust before they can properly love an equal. Notice that a relationship can change. For example, the love relationship with one's children (not, in this case, an equal relationship) usually does change when they have grown up. When they are old and wise enough, the love of one's children will now include trust, though it did not before.
Except in the case of one's own children, love cannot long survive the loss of trust.
Trust, however, can exist in the absence of love. For example, we would like to trust our elected representatives (politicians etc.) Every person, who has not by bitter experience learned to mistrust anything and everything, will freely give trust to anyone, provided they are not positively known to be untrustworthy, or possibly if they are suspected of being untrustworthy by reason of being in some untrustworthy category (eg. strangers, young children, members of an untrustworthy organization, etc.). In other words, trust is giving the benefit of the doubt when one's own "knowledge" is felt to be wanting. When one "knows" from independent sources then of course there is no doubt, unless that "knowledge" is newly considered doubtful in the light of what a loved one, for example, has said.
Specifically, one must trust one's marriage partner if one is to love them. Love without trust is not a basis for any permanent equal relationship.
Love & Trust
Do you believe that in order for you to love your partner, you have to trust them, you have to confide in them, everything that one does, embellish with them all your inner thoughts?
Love is something unexplainable, something uncontrollable, a feeling you cannot define, every ones concept of love is different, everyone believes in a true love, but what is love? Do you believe it needs trust to build a commitment?
Trust, in order for your partner to be there for you, you want to develop a sense of comfortablism with them, that you can grasp and confide in them with anything you have to say or offer, any decisions you wanted to make you would "TRUST" them with that so you can make the right choice.
"You can do wrong to me but at the end of the day, I still love you, unconditionally"
Think about this, can you love someone and build a strong commitment with them if you don't trust them? Can you tell them everything, share everything, why does trust need to be a factor in your decision on whether you should love him or her for the rest of your life, if I don't trust you that doesn't mean I don't love you, and vice versa. How is it that the two things always get mixed up and twisted and tangled, mangled. who proposed that these two should determine what happens in a relationship. How can anyone say this has a factor or plays a role in how you love someone. You should love them whether you trust them or not, trust is nothing when you have great feelings with someone else. There should be no filters or walls to determine, LOVE, I don't have to trust you to love you. Love is not only the foundation of relationships, it is the foundation for everything.
Love is something unexplainable, something uncontrollable, a feeling you cannot define, every ones concept of love is different, everyone believes in a true love, but what is love? Do you believe it needs trust to build a commitment?
Trust, in order for your partner to be there for you, you want to develop a sense of comfortablism with them, that you can grasp and confide in them with anything you have to say or offer, any decisions you wanted to make you would "TRUST" them with that so you can make the right choice.
"You can do wrong to me but at the end of the day, I still love you, unconditionally"
Think about this, can you love someone and build a strong commitment with them if you don't trust them? Can you tell them everything, share everything, why does trust need to be a factor in your decision on whether you should love him or her for the rest of your life, if I don't trust you that doesn't mean I don't love you, and vice versa. How is it that the two things always get mixed up and twisted and tangled, mangled. who proposed that these two should determine what happens in a relationship. How can anyone say this has a factor or plays a role in how you love someone. You should love them whether you trust them or not, trust is nothing when you have great feelings with someone else. There should be no filters or walls to determine, LOVE, I don't have to trust you to love you. Love is not only the foundation of relationships, it is the foundation for everything.
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