planner or player

 planner or player

i prepare to writ  a book about relationship  a good one with love not just for playing and i need help i want all of you share with me your idea about man and woman .
as we know our generation today is too different a lot of people man or woman look in the wrong place for love for good relationship but not all people have a good faith about this ,some looking for his second half to plan his/her rest life but in the other side some people just looking to play .


the question is 
                         how we can know that person search for ?
                                               
planning his/her  life 
or
playing with other lives